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Communication. Two-Way Street. Different from a monologue. As personal as a face-to-face conversation. As broad as a job interview.

In today’s world, the main source and channel of communication is messaging. Social messaging. Instant messaging. Text messaging. Phone calls a thing of the past? No it’s just more accessible to be quick and type up a message and press send. Are there hidden codes and unwritten rules to text messaging ? Should every single message sent require a response? There’s a general stance on this medium of communication that would suggest that when communicating through text messages, the general state of the conversation is weighed upon the usage of words, as well as length of message. Since there’s no face-to-face interaction, nonverbal communication is a challenge. Tone of voice, and meaning behind the usage of words become a maze trying to determine what the person is saying and feeling.

So in retrospect, the way of finding out the conversation’s health will depend on length of messages being sent. If the messages between two people are short and not a lot of words are being exchanged, the conversation will be short lived. If the words are plenty and messages are lengthy , the conversation tends to have more substance and depth.

Should a person feel a certain way if a text message isn’t responded to? The answer lies in their message they sent said person. There’s a difference between a “Hi” and a “Hey, how is your day going” even if someone started the conversation with the second greeting listed above, that doesn’t warrant a response of “Great, how about you/Not so good, but what about you?” It could just be a “hey” in return, or vice versa.

Unwritten rules and general rule of thumb would suggest that the shorter the message, the less likely a response will be given. It’s implied that if a lengthy message with depth and substance is followed by a shorter message, there may be a lost of interest in current topic and/or overall conversation..

No assumption is made here. If someone writes a book and publishes it and asks for reviews, the one sentence review won’t come off as interested as the full page critical analysis. An argument could be made that interest was still shown even with said “one sentence” review. But the reality is , that author didn’t put his heart and soul into writing that manuscript for a “one sentence” review.

When should someone feel upset about not receiving a message in return, if at all?

Only when necessary. If your deepest thought or idea, or just something you felt you wanted to share with someone important was replied to with a shortened message, would you be upset? Should you feel upset?

Or would you be disappointed if you were the person who never received a message in return when you were the one who replied with a shortened message in the first place? Do you have a right to be upset?

Are you expecting too much from the person you’re communicating with without checking your communication skills first?

Communication is a two way street. It’s important both parties involved are knowledgeable about the written and unwritten codes of communication. Verbal communication is important. Nonverbal communication is critical.

Communication is vital to relationships. When communication breaks down, the relationship breaks down. When the relationship breaks down, there’s no immunity to the quarrels and arguments that arise from any and everything. A simple misunderstanding can turn a good day into a horrible one.

Communication is important to keep everything in order. Including unfiltered emotions and thoughts. Things tend to spiral out of control emotionally and mentally when communication has fallen apart.

When this has happen, the state of any relationship in this context is unstabled and could combust at any moment.

The one thing that’s missing horribly is communication. It starts and ends with communication. The two people must communicate thoroughly to reach an agreement, compromise, mutual understanding. In a relationship, this has to happen consistently. The two people involved must learn to communicate always and often.
At the end of the day, no one is going to force the issue. If the communication isn’t there after several attempts , it’s just not there.

There’s no other way to explain it.
Whatever the case, just remember..
Communication. Is. Key.


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