“The Definition of a Woman”

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What is the definition of a Woman?

‘Hair done, nails done, everything done.’ Not that one?  try this one..  “Cute in the face, thick in the waist…”  No? How about this one.. “Lady in the streets, and a freak in the sheets”… Nope?? Try this one on for size…. “I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T.. I don’t need a man”

those are all definitions of what a woman is, at least that’s what society thinks the definition of a woman is.. but what about what God says the definition of a Woman is..?

just as the definition of a man in society’s eyes is real different from what God says the definition of a man is, the same can be said about a  woman.

My Pastor started the series on womanhood entitled ‘Victorious Secrets’ talking about the heart of a Woman. this message focuses more on the definition of a Woman. There’s 4 things that describe the definition of a woman.

1. A Woman must Reject Insecurity . In the book of Genesis, in the third chapter, we see the first encounter from Satan in the form of a serpent, as he tried to con and deceive Eve into biting the forbidden fruit, which God commanded Adam and Eve not to eat. He successfully tricks Eve into eating the fruit, as well as getting Adam to eating it as well.

Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden: But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die: For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

(Genesis 3:1-6)

By the serpent tricking Eve into eating the forbidden fruit, Eve had become susceptible to the scheme. The enemy has one overall purpose, and that was to cause Eve, and every woman today to become insecure of themselves. To go against what God commanded them to do, and to be tricked into society’s way of how a woman should look, feel, and what she has to do to feel accepted in the messed up world that we live in.  For example, insecurity will make a woman feel they are not accepted on their job, or at school, or even in a relationship. Insecurity will make a girl feel less about herself based on her looks, from facial features or her weight. Just read Genesis 29 when it talks about the insecurity of Leah when she wanted Jacob to be hers so bad she bore 4 children and it was only after the forth child that she praised the Lord and was finished bearing. (v.31-35)

the dangerous thing about insecurity is that it will jump from woman to woman. From an insecure mother to a daughter growing up insecure, and so forth. Insecurity will make a woman want to compare and compete with other women.

But God wants women to realize that He created them in the image of Him. Genesis 1:27. God wants you as a Woman to realize that you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Psalms 139:14.

2. A Woman  must Accept Responsibility. In today’s society, when things go wrong, both women and men struggle to take up for their faults and own up to their mistakes. It’s no mistake that BOTH Men and Woman must accept responsibility in becoming a better overall person as well as a child of God!

Don’t blame others for what has happened in your life. The ups, the downs, the tests, the trials, Everyone has a story. Every woman has a unique story of their own. It’s when you accept the responsibility, overcoming adversity, and persevering through the hard times, that you start to become more of the Woman God wants you to be. Just as in John 4, Every woman has a past (just as men do). But that’s no excuse to blame other women or men for what happened and what you went through. Don’t blame your boss for losing your job, don’t blame just your ex for all the wrong that went on in the relationship, etc.

God wants you as a Woman to accept your responsibility and live out the unique story God planned for you. 

3. A Woman must Lead Relationally . Proverbs 14:1 (NIV) Says the wise woman builds her house, but when her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. As a woman, to lead relationally, you have to set the atmosphere in the house. Setting the atmosphere in the home can be something simple such as praying with your husband and kids. And if you’re not  yet married, it could be something like keeping everything in the house from not being a distraction to your walk with God, like certain TV shows for example.

A Woman is to lead by example in her home. have bible studies with their family, pray with them, keep the spirit and presence of God in the house at ALL times. To lead relationally, a woman must also have a positive and amazing influence on her man. Stay encouraging him, praying with and for him. Satisfy and support him and love him, and submit to him.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children. To be self controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:3-6 (NIV)

The last thing God wants you to be as a Woman is to be a quarrelsome wife. Read Proverbs 25:24 


4. A Woman must Invest eternally.  The great commission is a command given by Jesus Christ in the book of Matthew when Jesus commanded to ‘go and make disiples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. and surely I am with you always to the very end of the age.’ (28:19-20)

As a Woman, one of the greatest things you can accomplish is to be an impact in another woman’s life. Especially a younger woman’s life. Just as the scripture in Titus 2 says, the older women should be reverent in the way they live, which means to be an example to younger girls around them. As a woman of God, your sole purpose outside of career, home, and love life, is to pour into another woman’s life. that can be anything from obtaining knowledge and wisdom from an older woman,  meet a new woman best friend and share life stories with them while you’re at the beauty salon, and then be able to go and encourage a younger girl, a teenager who needs some encouragement in a rough time. Sharing with them the Word of God, sharing your story with them, etc.

God wants you to invest eternally. Building the kingdom of God, one soul at a time. God doesn’t want you to be concerned with just your present life, but about seeking God’s greater reward for the future. 


Ladies, God wants you to continue to grow in the image of Him. He wants you to reject all of the insecurities that’s bothering you, accept responsibility, and know that each and every one of you has a unique story, God wants you to lead relationally and set the atmosphere in your home, as well as relate and have an amazing influence on your man. Continue to help him and support him emotionally and spiritually, and lead the way as a wife, and a mother in the home. Single women, you set the atmosphere at the home, by maintaining purity, and a focus on serving God, and finally He wants you to invest eternally. Invest in someone’s life today to build a better tomorrow.

Fellas, this is a great way to find out the type of woman in God’s eyes that you should be looking for. And if you already have a woman in your life, you can use this to help you pray for the woman in your life that she begins to line up under God’s definition of a woman.


Father, i pray and ask that you would help the woman in my life to achieve your definition of a woman. I ask that You would give her the strength, and courage to rise up and overcome and reject her insecurities, accept responsibilities, to lead relationally at home with her family, and to invest eternally. Help her to realize the goal is to live for You and encourage other women around her to do the same. Help her to understand her worth and that she is far beyond what this world may see her as. Help her to realize that she is wonderfully and fearfully made in the image of You God. I pray that she continues to live in Your love. In Jesus name I pray, AMEN.! 


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